Expectations

You walk into a family gathering. Niceties and greetings are exchanged, then what? We all know it’s coming…”So, are you seeing anyone?”

Dating is normal. And dating can be really good. But, it’s also expected, and sometimes those expectations just aren't realistic.

Girls are expected to date boys, older boys. Boys that can drive and afford to take them on nice dates. Boys who are bright and charismatic. Boys who look like they just stepped off the cover of a magazine. And those same boys are expected to date beautiful, young girls. Girls who will do what they want and look good doing it. And that’s just the expectations prior to the actual dating. Once a relationship is established, there are expectations of what to do and what to say.

Oftentimes in relationships, boundaries and expectations don’t line up and that can lead to some serious issues. When this happens, our self-worth, morals, and beliefs may be called into question or even discarded. How can we prevent this from happening?

The greatest way to combat unrealistic expectations is to know exactly what we want out of and are willing to put into a relationship before we even begin dating someone. It’s hard to figure out what it is we are and are not comfortable with, but the harder part is upholding those boundaries and standards. 

What are some expectations you have for dating, either positive or negative?

 

-Allie